Bats, Snakes, and The Dark, Oh, My!

68791ADB-17AD-420A-AF22-6D2505EB75F3Have you ever wanted to explore the inside of a cave?
I hadn’t because it was frickin’ scary to me.
I had heard that snakes and bats live there and most of all its really dark inside a cave! I am scared of snakes and bats, and I don’t like to be surrounded by the dark.
So not having any experience of being attacked by bats, bitten by snakes or being consumed by the dark, then what am I really afraid of?
Research shows, that often times, it’s because we are afraid of not having control over unknown circumstances.
Yeah, ok so now we are getting closer to the root of the fear. Let’s dig a little deeper.
I can now ask myself why losing control is something to be afraid of. Wow, that hit another trigger.
What happens then, if I feel like I have no control over my surroundings? I am left feeling vulnerable and powerless.
Ah, so herein lies the core of the problem.
So it’s really not about the snakes, bats and the dark, it’s that I am scared of feeling helpless and defenseless.
In this situation, I can see that fear itself is the only thing that is stopping me from entering the cave.
Who really is creating this fear? Muah!
As long as I think the cause of my fear stems from somewhere “out there,” I will never be able to fully experience my life.
The tool of digging beyond the surface of your perceived fear is to ask yourself, “Why am I afraid, and to keep asking until you get to the core. Most of the time it’s not initially what you think it is.
This practice has helped me get to the root of my fears, and overcome them.
Set yourself free by getting to the bottom of what really is making you afraid, and practice standing in front of your fear.
This practice will give rise to your courage.

Traveling Can Take You There

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How many times have you wanted to do something but your perceived limitations held you back?

Maybe you are afraid someone you knew would see you not acting “yourself” or you will be told to grow up, and act like an adult.  

The only way to set yourself free from your perceived limitations is to practice challenging your fears. 

One way to chip away at those barriers is to go to a place nobody knows your name, and do something you always wanted to do but we’re afraid because________.

It doesn’t have to be sky diving or spelunking, just something to pull you outside your comfort zone.

When I am away from home, I practice finding something I would be reluctant to do in the company of those that know me.

When I first moved to Florida, I went to down town Siesta Key.  

I was walking past a musician singing his heart out on the patio of a restaruant. The patio was packed. 

I wanted to dance, and the old fear came up voicing its opinion… “but you suck at it.”

I closed my eyes, bared my inhibitions, and started dancing all by myself right there on the street next to the restaurant. 

I danced for like 30 minutes. When I was done, I felt like I had taken some of the power back I let my fears steal from me. 

The next time you are away from home, pick something you are uncomfortable doing, and chisel away at your fears.

A New Resolution

 

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The new year always lends itself to new resolutions.

Starting Jan 1st, 2019. I will be sharing with you my 30 day challenge. 

This is an open invitation for you to choose something you wish to see change. 

I am choosing Yoga for 30 days straight . Normally I do yoga 2-3 times a week.

My intention for this challenge is to take my yoga practice to a deeper level.

When anything is done for 30 days consistently, the results can be seen both objectively and subjectively. 

I will concentrate on two aspects of my yoga practice; 1)consistently using breath to move me into, through, and out of each posture and  2) exercise acceptance and curiosity in each pose in any given moment.

In my practice I have noticed I hold my breath a lot and I judge myself in the postures. Funny thing is, this also happens in many other areas of my life. 

I will be journaling and sharing the effects of this practice both on and off the mat. 

When selecting a goal it must be doable, measurable and obtainable.  

-It must be something you want to do and not something someone else wants for you. 

-You will be able to identify, hear, see and feel when you reach your goal. 

-Doing 10 mins of something everyday is an easy goal and can lead to great improvements. 

An achievable goal motivates you to remain consistent.

By defining my goal I have increased the likelyhood of success. 

This commitment will not only improve my physical practice but I also predict will provide a ripple of healing in other areas of my life. I.e more patient and less judgement towards myself. 

I am excited to see what transformation will occur.

You are welcome to join me in selecting whatever you would like to set in motion to create change in your life. It can be anything! Change always permeates other facets of your life. The beauty is in the metamorphosis.

Practicing Non-Attachment

 

 

 

Two months ago, I asked a Buddhist nun, why she shaved her head.  She said it helps us to let go of attachment.

For last two months, I have thought about this practice.  It was not easy to make this decision to shave my head.  Although, I knew it would be a great learning experience toward the practice of letting go of attachment.

Having an attachment to your life creates unnecessary suffering.

We have an attachment to the food we eat, the love we share, the gifts we give, the conversations we have with others, the day we wake up to, the children we raise and the kind of car we drive. We have an attachment to whether we live or die, the sun shines, the wind blows, our child gets a part in the school play, how our hair looks and who’s on first and what’s on second.

You can set an intention and you can have a dream. The key is not to be attached.

Life often shows up differently than we envisioned or planned.  A practice of letting go of our grip on the reins of our life,  and let life unfold as it will, enables us to live without limiting the love we have to share