Before my mom became sick I had a solid yoga practice going. I was also doing other things to help support my physical, and mental well-being.
Our mental, physical and emotional consciousness will shift to make room for what we feel takes precedence in our lives.
When I got the call that my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 Esophageal cancer, my life shifted. I was grateful I had been taking care of myself. I was physically, and mentally strong enough to be there for my mother.
We often give so much of ourselves away, thinking very little about the vessel we need to support our caregiving, our work, and our relationships.
Give yourself the love you need so you have the love you need to give away.
I am not your enemy,
though you loath the thought of me.
I have awakened you to…
A sweeter love
a bluer sky
the forgotten song of a yellow finch
You experience life more fully with me.
I have heard you say you never wanted me in your life.
Yet, you now value my presence.
~ Cancer ~
Poem by Trina Schartz
Cheers to Good health
My mother had knee replacement surgery on April 16, 2018. April 26, she was diagnosed with stage 3 esophageal cancer.
She was not scheduled to start radiation until June 13th and Chemo June 15th. The Dr. explained she would undergo 28 days of continued radiation and a round of chemo once a week for 6 weeks. They would give her a month break. Then surgery to remove what she had left, and start radiation and chemo all over again after surgery.
Our goal as a family was to support our mother in strengthening her body which would support her during her treatment.
For the last month, we worked on changing her diet. Lots and lots of organic fresh vegetables and berries; raspberries, blueberries, and blackberries. (all high in antioxidants) Every morning we juiced for her. Juicing helps to detox and alkalize the body, and increase the immune system. We added protein shakes (Vega Organic Proteins and more greens:)) which helps to maintain muscle, fight infection and also helps to strengthen the immune system
We eliminated processed sugar, gluten, dairy and red meat. No MSG and No microwave use. This elimination reduces inflammation in her body (Inflammation causes an acidic environment in which cancer cells thrive on).
We added cannabis oil to reduce stress, anxiety, and nausea.
We walked as much as she felt comfortable to do so. This was two-fold as she needed the rehab for her knee to heal and to help keep her body strong.
She listens to positive mediations and my father and mother have prayed the rosary every day together. This helped keep her positive.
On June 29th my parents received news from the Dr. that her blood work came back normal with the exception of low sodiumlp. The Dr. was amazed! He said to keep up the good work. He said with the results we have seen we have decided to only give you one more round of chemo and 2 more weeks of radiation. At this point, you will not need to start this all over in a month. When we are done with this round we will do another scope and see where things are at that point. But everything looks fabulous!
This was music to our ears!
A note to those who are in the supporting role of caring for a loved one.
Treat each day as an anomaly, because it is. Every moment provides a different experience. Don’t own the diagnosis. Own the steps to recovery. When the patient is feeling down, remind them that this too shall pass.
Get them out of the house as much as they feel up to it. This helps elevate mood for both the patient and the caregiver. If they are not able to go outside and are feeling down, find something they like to do and do that with them. The point is to keep the mind from ruminating on what doesn’t feel pleasant in the moment.
Keep the atmosphere positive. This helps to keep stress at bay. Help them to remember every positive change. Sometimes it hard for them to see the positive changes when they are in the midst of treatment.
No matter how BIG your heart is and your intention behind your giving, if the person you are caring for doesn’t want whatever it is you’re offering, let go and trust the process. It’s their journey.
Thank you, everyone, for your continued support! We feel so BLESSED!
When life knocked at my door and the visitor was unexpected and unwanted, I was immediately overwhelmed with emotions.
For days following the visit, I didn’t want to share the news with anyone. I didn’t want sympathy. I didn’t want pity. I just wanted to be left alone. I needed time to process the news. We all did!
Life had suddenly been put into perspective. The thorns that had been buried under our skin over the years, prior to the visitor, had suddenly vanished.
Love is all that prevails now.
My mom, Ellie has chosen radiation and Chemotherapy as her method of defense against Stage 3 Esophageal Cancer.
Today, June 13th, 2018 marks the first day of treatment.