To Laugh at Yourself is a Great Resolution

I too, like Jennifer Lawrence, feel like my statute of limitations is up on embarrassing moments.

My New Years resolution is to laugh at myself.  I hereby give myself permission to let myself off the hook and enjoy those most embarrassing blunders.  So here we go…

I was at an airport terminal waiting to board my connecting flight. I went into a gift shop to buy a pack of gum.  At the counter, I noticed a basket of small envelopes. The sign read “$2.00 for live rattlesnake eggs.” While waiting for the store clerk to “ring me up,”  I picked up one the envelopes in the basket, and another one started to rattle. I jumped and threw the envelope back in the basket.  After I got the clerk’s attention, I leaned forward (thinking to myself, I am going to save someone from being rushed to the hospital) and whispered, “some of these are hatching, as I point to the basket.  I can’t believe you are allowed to sell these, I stammered.  Rattlesnakes are poisonous.” She giggled, grabbed one of the packages and said, “these are not real mam.”  She opened the enveloped to reveal two paperclips wound tightly by a rubber band.

Enjoy your New Year. Let yourself off the hook!






Making a Difference, One Cup of Coffee at a Time.

When I owned my coffee shop, ONE of my ALL time favorite things to do was bring the community together, and it still is!
We connected people to people, and later discovered someone made a new friend.
Today, I had the beautiful opportunity to meet my friend Pam Grout from Kansas, and her friend Mary from Bradenton, Fl.
We met at this amazing coffee shop called Land of A Thousand Hills Coffee Company, Bradenton, Fl.

They are a non-profit coffee shop and restaurant who choose to pay it forward.
All the coffee proceeds go to Rwanda, the food proceeds are used to keep operating the coffee shop and all the tips go back to the community.
You can gift food and a cup of coffee to others.
What a flippin’ awesome idea!!!
I LOVE people’s creative minds.


The “T’s Knees”

The origin of the word “breakfast” was coined in the 15th century to describe the morning meal, which literally means to break fast from the night before.

Some individuals believe by not eating breakfast it helps keep weight down.
In fact, it’s just the opposite.
Not eating breakfast; slows your metabolism, contributes to weight gain, and can leave you feeling more sluggish and drowsy.
Breaking the fast by eating breakfast within in at least two hours after you awaken, is like stoking the fire of your metabolism, giving your body what it needs to burn more calories throughout the day.

It doesn’t have to be complicated to keep your life in balance.

The “T’s Knees” are packed with enough nutrients to jump start your day.

“T’s Knees”

Toasted granola, pumpkin, flax and chia seeds, Greek yogurt, blueberries, sliced strawberries and cocoa dusted almonds.

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Asking Questions

IMG_7332While I was living in Jakarta, Indonesia,  I left for a workshop in Sumatra, and a bomb exploded in Jakarata.
When I came back to Jakarta from Sumatra, a volcano erupted in Sumatra.
I felt guilty in both experiences, wondering why I was spared, and other living beings were injured or killed.
While in Florida,  I lived through a hurricane, and again I questioned why I was spared from harm or death.

I have asked myself, WHY? Why am I here???

I realized, a part of my “I” is being chipped away each and every time. These situations are helping me to pull the  focus away from me, and my attachments, and more on the needs of others.

If we are never given the opportunity to ask questions, it will be impossible to expand our awareness.

Procrastination Will Engulf You. Action Will Deliver You. ~ Trina Schartz

Tonight I came to the beach in an effort to complete a blog post.

I scanned the beach looking for a person I could trust with my phone.

I eyed a young woman sitting with her family. I walked up to her and asked if she wouldn’t mind videoing me.

She said she would be happy to.  I proceeded to explain, I needed her to film me for a blog I was writing.

She asked me what my blog post was about. I told her procrastination versus action.

Together we completed my goal.

I thanked her for her kindness. She said, what perfect timing.  I was just diagnosed today with a severe heart problem.

Thank you for the reminder.

Procrastination will engulf you.

Action will deliver you.

Let Life Be a Part of You

It’s one thing to take a step in the direction of your desires when you’re feeling on top of the world, it’s another thing when you feel like the world is lying on top of you.

Throughout my life, I have dealt with bouts of depression.  I know it takes a lot to pull yourself out of it, especially if you allowed yourself to spiral.  Once I hit the bottom of the staircase, I laid there curled-up in a pile of self-pity and drowning in a pool of self-loathing.

So what did I do to get myself out of this state I chose to visit? I knew I could not remain a victim of my circumstance. I had to admit the fact it was my choice to take this trip.   Next, I got up. I had to connect instead of remaining isolated from the world around me. Sometimes I had to ask for help.

The key is to recognize when you’re standing at the top of the stairs, and not wait till you have started tumbling down the steps of despair.

A couple of things I know that worked well for me were:

1)Taking my shoes off and allowing my skin to connect with the earth. This helped ground me.

2) Connecting with others, especially children.  They are fabulous role models for living in the moment.

I found my purpose and balance when I allowed life to be a part of me.

Eat Simply So That You May Simply Live

The point of living simply is to calm you down, not stress you out. Yet, I have noticed for many people it does the exact opposite.
“Eating simply” from home has become an oxymoron. People think if their food is not dripping with fat, soaked in dairy, and wrapped in gluten it will taste disgusting.
Let me ask you this, how would you know what it tastes like if it’s buried?
I remember the first time someone told me that taking a shower outside was the best thing ever. I thought they were smokin’ crack! Me outside, with no clothes on, in front of God and everyone? Yeah, NO!
Guess what? I had a whole new realization. I felt great being bathed by the suns natural rays and a cool breeze to dry me off.  It also felt liberating.
Until you discover the flavor of your food unwrapped, only then can you wrap your senses around the simplicity of food in the raw.
Then if you want to spice it up, eat your food naked.

Practicing Non-Attachment




Two months ago, I asked a Buddhist nun, why she shaved her head.  She said it helps us to let go of attachment.

For last two months, I have thought about this practice.  It was not easy to make this decision to shave my head.  Although, I knew it would be a great learning experience toward the practice of letting go of attachment.

Having an attachment to your life creates unnecessary suffering.

We have an attachment to the food we eat, the love we share, the gifts we give, the conversations we have with others, the day we wake up to, the children we raise and the kind of car we drive. We have an attachment to whether we live or die, the sun shines, the wind blows, our child gets a part in the school play, how our hair looks and who’s on first and what’s on second.

You can set an intention and you can have a dream. The key is not to be attached.

Life often shows up differently than we envisioned or planned.  A practice of letting go of our grip on the reins of our life,  and let life unfold as it will, enables us to live without limiting the love we have to share