Cheers to a Healthy Relationship!
Cheers Let’s Toast!
So this is what a healthy relationship looks like.
have run into each other on many occasions but I never welcomed you into my life to stay.
Thank you, my friend. You have humbled me, supported my growth, made me more aware of what I am capable of, and you have helped me set the groundwork to build other healthy relationships. Thank you for this clarity.
Today is day 30.
It may be the end of my initial commitment but it’s the beginning of a new friendship.
Before I began this 30-Day Commitment, I would not have let you see what I cannot not do or what I have not yet achieved. I was afraid of being viewed as not good enough.
I had to surrender to the idea that I am right where I am suppose to be, and there are also some things my body might not physically be able to do.
Change takes time, patience, courage, perseverance, acceptance and honor.
During my 30-day yoga challenge, I have learned to honor where I am. I’ve exercised courage to accept the present moment. Because of my courage, I am able to show up, and as a result, my level of commitment is increasing.
The key is to remind myself, the only moment I am required to be present for, is this one.
Part 1: The physical aspect of change
In the beginning of this 30 day challenge, I shared my goals.
I said, “I would concentrate on two aspects of my yoga practice; 1)consistently using breath to move me into, through, and out of each posture and 2) exercise acceptance and curiosity in each pose, in any given moment.”
I posted photos of the poses ( the photos above inside the studio) I was choosing to use to monitor my progress.
Due to the pain I felt in my shoulders, elbows, hips and knees, my mobility was limited.
Because I excercised acceptance and curiosity, I found where I held my breath, and created resistance in certain postures. This resistance generated muscle tension and strain.
Being committed everyday has helped me to improve my overall focus and flexibility, as well as altering the depth of my stretch in the postures.
I have also notice, the level of pain in my hips, knees, elbows and shoulders is almost non-existent.
In Part 2, I will share with you the non-physical affects I have notice as a result of this challenge.
One forward bend, plus four major areas stretched, equals the ability to play with five more digits you may not already spend a lot of time with.
Oh, the joy! In this posture; you can give yourself a pedicure, you can sing “This Little Pig Went to The Market,” and you can even blow your toes a kiss.
In all seriousness, Paschimottanasana or otherwise known as Seated Forward Bend, stretches some major areas of the body, which include; the spine, shoulders, lower back, and hamstrings. It also helps to lower blood pressure, and improve digestion.
With all these benefits, what are you waiting for, bend over.
Before my mom became sick I had a solid yoga practice going. I was also doing other things to help support my physical, and mental well-being.
Our mental, physical and emotional consciousness will shift to make room for what we feel takes precedence in our lives.
When I got the call that my mom was diagnosed with stage 3 Esophageal cancer, my life shifted. I was grateful I had been taking care of myself. I was physically, and mentally strong enough to be there for my mother.
We often give so much of ourselves away, thinking very little about the vessel we need to support our caregiving, our work, and our relationships.
Give yourself the love you need so you have the love you need to give away.
When I was a kid, I would dream I was a superhero. But when I committed to a goal for 30 days, I no longer have to dream. I am meeting my superhero.
We all have our own Superhero (our true self) living within us, a self that knows what we are truly capable of doing.
In the beginning of our commitment, we ask ourselves to show up. That’s all it takes, everyday, just show up, and the superhero you dreamed of becoming, emerges.
This is how you meet your dream and reach your goal.
There are four parts to a yoga pose. Getting into, aligning, holding and coming out of the pose.
I use to think I was “all that, and a bag of chips,” when I thought I mastered the pose. Until one day, the instructor tried to adjust my alignment, and I lost my balance.
I was comfortable with holding the posture as is. Introducing proper alignment felt like starting all over again.
How many times have you felt like you mastered something, only to find out you have returned to the baby Bhudda stage of enlightenment?
Alignment gave me new insight. I gained energy because my muscles were being used more efficiently, and I prevented possible injury.
What doesn’t challenge you, won’t change you.
Let’s Talk Benefits!
I would like to share some from my own personal experience. ( It’s worth reading to the end:))
1)Help you relax
2)Help you focus
3)Assist in creating a healthier lifestyle because of increased awareness-The better you feel the more you will want to support your overall health, and well-being.
4)It builds better bones. It is
documented that weight-bearing exercise strengthens bones. I was diagnosed with Osteopenia, and with the help of a continued yoga practice, It has helped to strengthen my bones.
5)It helps to drain lymph and boost immunity because you are contracting and stretching muscle.
6)It prevents cartilage and joint breakdown
Joint cartilage is like a sponge;
And certain postures hone in on specific areas of the body squeezing out old fluid so new fluid can be absorbed, feeding the joints with fresh nutrients.
7)Yoga helps to decrease the symptoms of IBS and other digestive issues.
Ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome, constipation— can all be exacerbated by stress. So if you stress less, you’ll suffer less.
Now, if I haven’t convinced you yet with all the benefits I have listed above that practicing yoga is worth your time, this one just might “seal the deal.”
8)Would you believe that yoga improves your sex life? You will become a lot more “bendy.”
Stepping outside of a routine brings a deeper awareness.
Today, I practiced yoga with the intent to focus on what I was feeling. I tried keeping my eyes closed so I could stay focused. Although, the instructor demonstrated several poses I have never done before, so I kept my eyes open long enough to get the instruction, and then turned closed them.
How ironic, he asked if we were feeling frustrated or mad. I guess, I was not the only one who was experiencing some frustration. I struggled just trying to get into the pose let alone hold it.
He questioned, “if you are feeling irritated, is this a familiar pattern that arises when you don’t get what you want?“
Our emotions contain valuable information if we are patient enough to embrace them.